It’s great when we think back on all the experiences of the past; past years, months, days or moments ago; the Yesterdays. I’m talking about all of them, the ‘good’ ones the ‘not so good’ ones down to the ‘nasty’ ones. It’s ok now because we have made it through, and sometimes, oh how soon we forget, we jump back in the saddle and do the same things again; the ‘good’, ‘not so good’ and the ‘nasty’ ones. Why? Because we are failing to live in today. You see it’s ok to remember yesterday, but not ok to continue to live there.
A nice meal, getting loads of compliments for that certain outfit/dress, a nice new friend, or a fantastic holiday. All experiences to take forward today and tomorrow if you choose, because they are wonderful and they feel good; but the challenges of failed relationships, debts, pain, losses and other negative experiences should remain in yesterday. Look at them today, but only to follow the instructions given, then let them go. You must today reflect on yesterday’s lessons in order to live today, if the lessons are not learnt then you return to yesterday until you have. Can you imagine living years of your life in yesterday; never moving forward? Like you’re stuck in a loop.
Today is all that matters, for tomorrow you will come to understand, in the Today.
I don’t believe in using anyone’s life as a measurement of my own; but there are so many people who would do anything just to breathe another day.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. You are reborn, you are not the same. You have been changed. You are not the same person, and that is literal.
Every cell in your body changes in every moment. You are different.
How that change impacts is down to you. We don’t see the changes because they are ever so slight, but change it does, just like a baby from one moment, day, and month to a year, it never stops changing, physically and mentally. A baby adapts and learns from the environment it’s in, some are fast learners, others not so fast, but to develop they eventually change. If a baby does not change and show they are learning and developing, we assume they are not healthy and we try to ‘fix’ them. As adults we continue to learn but we sometimes only act on and apply to our lives things that we need to fit in society; education to get a good job in order to make enough money, to pay the bills and have a nice home, drive a nice car. And we apply this knowledge literally, no questions. We no longer do what we did as children; ask questions; simple questions. We grow up and suddenly one day feeling sad or lonely or hurt is unacceptable, we do not try to rectify it; we accept it as a normal part of our existence to live resisting it. When we were children and we felt sad or unhappy or in pain, we HOWLED until someone fixed us, until we got answers, we did not resist; and when we got answers we moved on; we didn’t start anticipating when it would return or all the ‘what ifs’ we do as adults. But we have become conditioned to live our lives by sets of rules that do not always serve us well. Crying is a sign of weakness, it’s not socially acceptable to discuss your ‘problems’ you must ‘act’ ‘’as if’ you are ok. Why? Any sign of mental weakness is frowned upon. Irony is most of us have some mental frailty, we have just learned how to either hide it well or pass it off as a new attitude so it’s ‘cool’ or we are so messed up we don’t even realise we have it, or we skilfully project it unto others.
Today the responsibility is all ours, to ask the right questions and to give the answers, to fix ourselves and to never resist the ‘bad’ experiences.
So ‘Today’ let’s ask the right questions. Who am I, and how am I feeling today?
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